You have the best intentions, I know this about you already but here is the thing…just because it’s free doesn’t mean you are obligated to take it.
Think about it…
obscure flavored tea samples that are given aways at grocery store openings,
cosmetic freebies with the purchase of a new mascara,
taking something your friend or family is trying to get rid of…
and on and on it goes.
“Look at this! It was free!” Then a month or ten years later, that travel sewing kit still sits as clutter in your closet, because let’s face it, when are you going to repair a button on the road? Never.
Do yourself a favor and say no to begin with.
“Are you sure?” they’ll ask you.
“But it’s free!” they’ll exclaim.
“Thanks, but no thanks,” you’ll say back.
They might give you a weird look but secretly admire your resolve. Just think of it that way and take care of your future self.
You’ve probably heard this one before, but if you haven’t it can be a game changer in making your life so much better.
Once is Enough
The rule is to touch stranded or misplaced items in your house only once. This is basically another way of saying put things away immediately (laundry, dishes, shoes, you-name-it). Now this of course assumes that you have a place to put things in the first place. That’s a given. Everything needs a home and hopefully one in which you don’t have to play a game of tetris in order to put it away.
The biggest culprit in our home? Mail and paperwork. My husband brings it in and lays it on the dining room table. I distribute the mail and walk the rest of it upstairs EVERYDAY to the office where I have an “In” file box that I put pending papers. I’ve gone paperless with what ever bills I can, that helps. Most bills have statements online if you ever need a history or a quick phone call should do the trick.
The one touch rule is one of those things that you do for your future self. Is it a pain to always put things away immediately? Yep. But it’s essential if you want a tidy space in which to live and the sanity that comes along with it.
A couple of weeks ago, I went to one of those art and craft supply stores to replace some inserts for my Happy Planner organizer that I use. I was perfectly satisfied with my system until on the way to check out, I passed a kiosk that held a smaller version of what I already had. This stopped me in my tracks. Would I prefer the smaller size? Yes. Could I fit everything I needed into it? Probably. It might be difficult, but I could at least try. A smaller size would allow me to carry the planner around with me all the time. My current one is big and the cover keeps falling off constantly but I love the system and it works for me. But this smaller version just might work better…
But is it better?
After wasting fifteen minutes looking over, analyzing, walking up to the cash register then back to the kiosk again, I finally decided to listen to my own advice that I’d recently shared with a friend: if you have a system in place (for your grocery shopping, wardrobe, house cleaning, laundry, carpool, or whatever) that works for about 80% of the time, then call it good and stop trying to make it perfect. I could’ve spent my fifteen minutes elsewhere, on something that is not working at 80% in my life yet, like exercising. I could’ve taken my dog for a short walk in the amount of time I wasted hemming and hawing.
Stop trying so hard
How much time/money/energy are you wasting try to cover the gap from 80% to 100%? My guess is too much. Stop. Now choose an area that isn’t working, then re-dedicate that effort. For me it’s regular, consistent exercise. I may do one or two days a week but I want exercise to be more like brushing my teeth; something I just do without thinking about it too much.
It’s so easy to get wrap up in what isn’t working in your life. How about reversing the question and ask what IS working in your life? Congratulations! Give yourself a pat on the back. Those are the areas you do not need to spend more time on, savvy? Choose something that needs some TLC and start taking baby steps.
Recently, I streamlined my décor by getting rid of two bookshelves: one in our dining room and one in our living room. My family thought I was being extreme, but each bookcase held items that remained relatively ignored; ceramics that our now-teenagers made as preschoolers, leather bound books of classic stories that I thought I would someday read out loud to my family (never happened), candlesticks, photographs, surplus vases (pick one favorite vase and if you need more, use a large mason jar), umpteen cookbooks and field journals.
One of the things I like to do is purchase new moving boxes to store things that I’m not yet ready to let go of, but want to experiment living without. A new moving box is clean, sturdy and label-less so that you can clearly write on it. They sell them at your local hardware store. All of our tchotchkies went into a box, I sold the shelves and leather books on Craigslist, then dropped off the cookbooks and field guides at our used bookstore (if you need a recipe or need to identify a bird, Google it). Not only am I experiencing more time for myself by eliminating a lot of dusting in my cleaning routine, but I no longer feel the emotional burden of by-passing décor that is outdated and overlooked. I want to have more time for exercising and eating healthy meals with my family. Not dusting tchotckies!
Try living with less stuff. Place a maximum of three items per horizontal surface. See how that looks. What décor or furniture can you edit? Give the empty space a week or two to get used to. I’ll bet you’ll love it in the long-run.
Do you covet seasonal Chrismas dinnerware or have fantasies about inheriting grandma’s hand-me-down-china set? I used to but not anymore. About the time I stopped decorating with seaonal throw pillows, I streamlined our dinnerware to white dishes that can be dressed up or down. I do not have to store a separate set of dishes for special occasions. Everything is dishwasher safe. This makes my life so easy.
Once, on a trip to IKEA, I used their glassware for a soda at the cafeteria and really liked the aesthetic and size. I thought it would make a great all around drinking glass. So when I got home, out went the various sized drinking glasses (juice sized for the kids, iced tea sized for me and pint sized for the hubby- it’s exhausting just writing about it!) and in came these:
GODIS 14 oz. glassware are the size between juice cups and pints. Now, anyone can empty the dishwasher, put the glasses away in the cupboard and done. No longer does anyone have to think about the small cups belonging on the lower shelf, or vice versa, or having a favorite drinking glass because they are all the same. We use them for juice, milk, iced tea, lemonade, water, beer, everything!
Same sized anything makes a beautiful aesthtic. Varying sizes of things can feels overwhelming and haphazard.
Another example: I was always disappointed when the small salad forks were the only clean ones left, because I don’t like the size of them. Who says you need two sized forks? For formal dining? For guests? I am the one living in my home and I wish it to be however I like. I don’t enjoy entertaining, so out they went. Now we only have my favorite sized fork and I love it.
Next, I am going to experiment with only one sized bowl and one sized plate for simplicity. It may be too streamlined but if it doesn’t work, I can always add them back into my life. Usually though, it makes my life so much easier and better.
What kitchen streamlining have you done that makes your life better? Share below!
I’ve had two people recently ask me how to buy hard-to-fit jeans. So here you go folks…how to buy jeans for almost anyone (Note: this post contains affiliate links, please see disclosure for details):
If you’ve got a lanky teenager or mature curvy frame, hands down the easiest way to fit and purchase jeans is to order on Amazon (because they carry all sizes). Take a tape measure and measure the waist (W), then the inseam of the leg (length or L) . Write that down. Now, think about the type of body frame. Petite? Then you might get away with buying youth sized jeans for a better fit and save some money. Pay attention to fit. Is the body hefty? Tall and thin? For example, my lanky teenage son looks best in skinny jeans. They provide a nice lean look without extra material bagging in the derriere and thighs, which can look awkward at best. My teenage daughter? Skinny jeans or jeggings for a jean-leggings look. My middle-aged husband? Relaxed fit jeans for comfort. Next, jump on Amazon to order (click the image below, find your measurement in the drop down box).
You pretty much can’t go wrong with a pair of Levi’s.
Men’s Skinny Levi’s
Men’s Relaxed fit Levi’s
Men’s Big&Tall Levi’s
No more dragging my reluctant teenage son shopping! These jeans are shipped to my front door and done. If it doesn’t fit, send them back and try the next size. It only took two tries to get it right. Easy-peasy, especially if you have Amazon prime. Be sure to check the fine print before you purchase to see about costs on returns where applicable.
You get the idea…
How do you buy hard to fit jeans? Online? In brick and mortar? Share below!
Welcome to my Worth It/Not Worth It series where I give you my unsponsored, unadulterated opinion about certain household products. You’re welcome.
(Note: this post may have affiliate links which means I make a small amount to help support this blog if you end up purchasing the thing-a-ma-jig through the link on this post)
I abhor vacuuming. Hate it. It’s the chore that takes the longest, is the most cumbersome and as much as I love our dog, makes me question the day I thought it was a good idea to bring her home. The joke in our house is that if you open a can a beans, you’ll find a dog hair in it!
So. Not. Funny.
Really, with four adult-sized humans living in our home, a dog, a cat and the intense Colorado four-season weather, our floors take a serious beating. The canister gets full to the brim every time and I vacuum twice a week. I have to lug the vacuum up and down three sets of stairs (what’s that? I think I hear the tiny house revolution calling my name!), untangle the cord, plug and unplug it, it’s heavy (I already have a gym membership thank-you-very-much), and before I’m finished, I always fantasize about buying a ticket to the end-of-the-line at the nearest train station.
Enter the Shark Navigator Freestyle Cordless Stick Vacuum (SV1106). This baby has changed my life. I’m not even kidding you. Probably saved my marriage and prevents me from giving away my teenagers and pets. This vacuum is so freaking light, I worried it wouldn’t really work. It does, I’m happy to say. It works like a charm.
When I bopped around the house using it for the first time, I turned it off and exclaimed, “I think this vacuum just brought me back from the edge!” My family sat on the couch giving me blank stares. But you know what I mean, don’t you? This makes my life so much better! Totally freaking worth it.
I also bought the Pet Hair Eraser Cordless Hand Vacuum for vacuuming the umpteen million stairs, the couch that the dog likes to sleep on, and the ottoman in the TV room (nacho crumbs begone!). Easy-peasy. I cut my vacuuming time in half with these upgrades. That’s more time to write blog posts, read, or whatever else. And you know my favorite saying around here, better is better. Huzzah! It’s soooo much better!
What household products make your life better? Share below!
p.s. I first learned about the Shark cordless vacuum from More Melody on Youtube. She’s got some great life hacks and I’m a sucka for a good life hack. I just can’t believe I waited so long to buy this.
p.p.s. I will try to remember to give a six or twelve month update, as I need the tools in my life to endure and it would disappoint me greatly if this broke suddenly, but I’ll let you know.
Edit (08/12/17): Not good for intense heavy use. Had to start cleaning it out every week=too much effort. Local vacuum guy said it is for light use only (like say, if you wanted to vacuum the crumbs from your kitchen floor, but not intended for whole house carpet use. I have to agree). Ended up buying the Dyson cordless vacuum on sale (still an exorbitant cost) at Target. This has further reduced my vacuuming time because of it’s brilliant engineering. The caveat? Runs out of battery quickly and canister has to be emptied frequently. However, instead of going outside like I used to, the canister is so small I just empty it over my compositing bin next to the kitchen sink (Did you know you can compost the dirt/dust/lint from your vacuum? You can.).
I have an aerospace engineering degree from Purdue University. I don’t say that to brag, I haven’t used it in eighteen years. My point is that most people who’ve been trained in engineering suffer from a serious case of perfectionism syndrome. After all, you don’t want your planes and spacecrafts falling from the sky. It’s essential that your engineers are smart, responsible, organized and detail oriented. I am just saying we are predisposed is all.
Nothing is perfect
Part of starting this blog is to help remind myself that in daily life, better is better. Nothing has to be perfect, I no longer design satellites.
Yesterday, I was cleaning our oven by hand (my life is so glam now!) because when I tried to use the self-cleaning part, the oven caught fire due to a globbity mess on the bottom. So I began the tedious task of scrubbing (I used How Jen Does It). Needless to say, it was messy and took awhile. Some of that nasty, crusty, burnt stuff got on my kitchen floor. My thought process went like this…
“I need to sweep that ash up before someone (the kids) gets it on their shoe and spreads it to the carpet.” Sigh. “I really need to vacuum the whole house and I should start at the top (we have four stories) and work my way down because that’s how you’re supposed to do it.” Sigh. “Really, I should dust first, then vacuum, then mop. That is the right way.” Sigh. “But that will take forever and I’m already tired.” Sigh. “Okay Cari, get over yourself and just clean up this mess in front of you and that’s it. That’s good enough.”
Do you see? It took some convincing myself to stop trying to make everything perfect. I’m getting better, but as you can tell, it’s still a work in process.
Most people suffer varying degrees of this. How to you deal with perfectionism syndrome? Can you relate? Comment below!
I used to hike many of the 14,000 foot peaks throughout the state of Colorado. It wasn’t uncommon for me to spend every weekend up at altitude. The common question amongst my friends was to ask, “How many 14ers have you hiked?” Racking up the hikes became the goal, and enjoying the outdoors a pastime.
Once I married and had two kids, I suffered from plantar fascitis and two knee surgeries that quickly curtailed the high impact sports I used to participate in. Recently, I needed a pair of light hiking shoes. I no longer hike 14ers but I do like to hike the moderate foothill trails in and around the county. A pair of trail running shoes would suffice but once I went shopping, the lure of hiking boots and fantasizing about my old way of life became hard to resist. So I bought both. One pair for “light” hiking (included in my budget) and one pair for “heavier” mountaineering (not included in my budget).
Three months later, I had not even used those mountain hiking boots. Oh sure, I had visions of mountaineering again but that fact remains that most of my free time is spent on bleachers somewhere watching my teenagers participate in athletics.
And when I get the odd day off just for me, I generally want to stick close to home and not wear myself out by hiking up at altitude all day. So I made peace with the fact that I’m not a mountaineer anymore, returned the hiking boots and haven’t looked back since.
Are you buying for your fantasy self? What do you find hard to let go of? Please share below!
If you’ve already let go of a New Year’s resolution then you’re gonna love this suggestion. I recently ran across Leo Babauta’s no goals post and found it intriguing. I’m really not that into New Year’s Resolution’s anyway. I figure if something is good for my life, then I should just start doing it. But there is a definite consensus that the New Year is a time for new beginnings and all that. In years past I’ve gone crazy in listing too many resolutions only to fail. But ‘No Goals’? I’m like, how do you get anything done? I live for my planner. I luuuuv crossing stuff off of my to-do list. I didn’t understand how this could work.
So, I thought I’d try it for a half a day as an experiment. Guess what? I got more done in that 2-3 hour period than I had all week. How’s that you ask? I’m not entirely sure. I know that once I decided on having no goals, I felt a weight being lifted off of my shoulders. It felt wonderful and uncomfortable all at the same time. Suddenly, because I didn’t have to do something, I just felt like to doing something. Weird, huh?
My suggestion? Start small. Try no goals for a few hours and see where it gets you. If you just do nothing, I think that’s best. Doing nothing is the hardest thing to do in our production-oriented society these days.
I’m going to try this experiment again because it made my life seem a little better. And as you know, I think better is better.
If you try this, I would love to hear about your experience below.